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5 and half months until I leave HM Forces

Friday March 5, 2010 at 11:38am
Thanks

First of I would like to thank those of you, who have taken the time to offer your support and advice. Very surprised at the response and very encouraged.

Letting go

I have thought about my last day now, for the last year, and have felt dread ever since.
I have delayed and delayed my resettlement and devoted my time to my Troop, Bty and my Regiment. It’s hard to let go!!

Why is it hard to let go?

My Troop needs me, my Bty needs me, my Regt needs me, or do they?

I suppose I have to look at the way I manage my Troop. I lose soldiers all the time from the Troop; I have never thought this Troop will not function when a soldier leaves. Most of the time his or her replacement fits in without no disruption and performs just as well and sometimes better. As will my replacement.

Belonging

I could write a book about what it means to be part of HM Forces and still not get my point across to those who have not experienced it.

It’s about pain. You’re on a hard long tab (a fast walk with heavy packs for all you civvies reading this), you are all sweating, you’re back and feet are hurting and all you want to do is say F*** this and stop! But you don’t, because its about pride and loyalty in yourself and those around you.

It’s about laughter. I had a soldier who was blown up and dying, his team were doing all they could to save him. He looks over to his leg lying about 10 ft way and asks his team commander to pass him his leg. He passes his leg to his mate and says ‘give me a leg up mate’. Funniest thing they ever heard. This soldier is lying on the ground and lost his leg but still has the courage and commitment to make sure his team were ok.

I belong to all this and it’s hard to let go. You are a part of tradition, a part of history and it makes you feel important and you belong to something special.

There is hope

I will lose all the above when I leave HM Forces and no longer be part of it. I hope the ex-military community can offer some sort of substitute and I believe it can after hearing Richard Kemp CBE speech at the BFRS event in Aldershot on the 4th.

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3 Comments

James Taylor | March 9, 2010, 4:34pm
I understand where you are coming from. Richards speech was superb. I have been out 6 months and feel lost. I have worked in Afghan for 4 of those months for a logistics company and the money was fantastic. It’s not the same as being in the mob. As Richard Kemp CBE put it ‘I’m not a civvy I’m ex-military’. The company I work for are always on the look for ex forces and Neil from Gemini Forces can pass you my details should you require them. Good Luck. Loved the first 2 Blogs and look forward to reading your next one. ...
Mark D. | March 9, 2010, 6:17pm
I must post, as I don’t normally comment on blogs and things, but I’m finding this really interesting. Although I left the army 14yrs ago what your saying brings back so many memories of how I felt, one thing I will say though, when you said ‘You are a part of tradition, a part of history and it makes you feel important and you belong to something special’ YOU MUST NEVER LOSE THAT FEELING OF BELONGING, as we’re all still part of the tradition and history, and as James said, but if I remember right Col Kemp said “I'm Ex Military not a civilian!” Oh and I’ve just joined a group on Facebook with that same saying!! Good luck and keep positive! ...
Martin Franks | March 10, 2010, 1:53am
Having read some recent comments about leaving HM Forces and resettlement I can only echo what some members have said. I have been "Ex-military" for for some 17 years and although I look back and remember the days with the boys there are great opportunities surfacing all the time for chaps like us. I had a gradual come down to normal civilian life and even fell in to the 9 to 5 slot for a few years. Ambition and adventure has always been in my blood and eventually I got back onto the circuit and inevitably did 3 year stint in Iraq. All good stuff, but something had to change and when my daughter was born my priorities did change. Now living in Hong Kong I teamed up a few years ago with an ex-military buddy and we now run a successful and exciting security company. Whilst we are not in desparate need for personnel right now there is a great business out there for committed people. I would be happy to point anyone in the right direction. Get in touch through: theglobalfrog@gmail.com...

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